Most women do not like to be treated or perceived as sex objects. And yet so many of them do whatever they can to come across as just that. As sex objects.
You cannot appreciate who you are on the inside if the image you create for yourself both online and out there in the real world is that of some beauty queen or even a porn star.
And unless you’re in the business of selling beauty or sexuality, which is perfectly fine, but unless you’re in that business, there’s absolutely no reason for you to create that kind of image for yourself.
Because the kind of attention you’re going to get from a man is going to be the wrong kind. The kind that you want to stay away from and you’re grossed out with.
Just look at some of the videos on YouTube where women try to show off their sexuality. Look at the comments they get.
I’m sure you’re not interested in getting those kinds of comments on Facebook or other social media networking sites or even in the online dating world.
So there is absolutely no reason why you should post the kind of photos of yourself that make it look like you’re at a photoshoot for Sports Illustrated or like you’re making an erotic movie.
There’s no reason for you to have photos of yourself where you’re standing in a very skimpy outfit and where you’re drunk and with a bunch of your drunk girlfriends at a club. It doesn’t flatter you.
There are other more subtle and far better ways of showing off that you’re pretty, that you’re an attractive woman. It doesn’t mean you have to be half-naked or almost naked.
It doesn’t mean you have to have pouty lips or pose with your cell phone in the bathroom, or that you have to stand in a provocative pose that says, “Come and get me.”
There are other ways to show off your beauty which I’m sure you can think of.
Similarly, in the real world, out there on the streets, many women go too far when showing off and dressing up. It’s perfectly fine to wear nice clothes but the problem is when you go too far and it looks like you’er trying too hard.
And that happens when you dress up during the day like you would at night when you’re going out to a club.
Very high heels, very short skirts, tonnes of makeup, extra eyelashes, it looks great if you work at a fashion magazine or at a retail store or at a make up department at Macy’s but if you’re not part of that world and you just walk like that down the street every day, it’s not going to serve you well, and it’s not going to attract the right kind of attention from men.
Some men will be intimidated by that and they will think that you’re unapproachable. Others will think that you’re high maintenance and all you want is money and clothes and make up and that you’re superficial, and others will simply insult you by making inappropriate comments.
Again, there is nothing wrong with looking good and dressing up and feeling good about yourself. Just make sure that you’re subtle about it and you don’t go too far.
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