So the other day, actually yesterday—it’s Sunday—it’s Monday right now by the time you guys get this posted. It’s Tuesday. The other day I was on Facebook and it’s something that I don’t hang out on that often.
So I logged on Facebook and this woman, Kathy Shapiro—and Kathy Shapiro was one of my big crushes in college—she actually emailed me over the course of the day yesterday and then she IMs me.
So I get into this little IM chat session with her and we’re going back 20 years, and I had a crush on her and Susan Halley in school, and I didn’t really do much about the crush.
Now, granted in college, I did have a girlfriend my senior year. I got laid in college, but I had crushes.
There was probably 3 or 4 girls that I had crushes on, and one of them was Kathy Shapiro and the other was Susan Halley. I did nothing about it.
Granted, I was friends with them, granted I’d say hello to them, granted I’d maybe sit at the AU cafeteria and have lunch with them thinking to myself that, “This is cool.
At least I’m being seen with them,” but in turn being really frustrated because I didn’t do anything about it.
And I know some of you have crushes right now that you just waste so much time on.
And I’m going to tell you a story right now that’s going to make you go out there to that crush and ask her out, because last night—first off, Kathy sent me this great little email saying, “Hey, man, are you still looking as sexy as you did 20 years ago,” whatever it was.
It was something really sweet and nice. So then we’re talking online like two adults and she writes, “What I remember about you in college is that I think you had a crush on me.”
So I was like, “Damn, I’m going to come clean.” So I IM her back and said, “Yeah, I did have a crush on you.”
And then she said something that you are going to sit back and get on the phone with your crush. Because what she sad to me next was, “Well, why didn’t you do something about it?”
Do you realize how much time you waste thinking about a crush instead of just saying, “Let’s go out, let’s hang out, let’s get drunk together,” if you’re in college or whatever it is, “Let’s go study together,” instead of just asking that, you sit there and played it safe?
I played it safe for 3 years in school with both these women. Both of them—to find out 24 years later that I should have something about it? Let me tell you something. That sucks.
Because she was this adorable little thing from what I remember. She was full of personality, still cute, still full of personality now, but you just waste so much time thinking about bullshit and not doing anything about it.
You waste so much time thinking about your crush and worrying about being rejected and when she asked me why I didn’t do anything about it, I said, “I didn’t want to get rejected.”
So the reason why I can coach all you guys so well is because I’ve been through the same monkey chatter, the same crap, the same stuff, the same wasted time.
And I really wanted to share this message with you guys today because it’s something that I want to challenge all of you.
I was going to put this in a podcast, I was going to put this on a blog and I decided, “You know what? I’m not going to put this on a podcast.
I’m not going to put this on a blog. You’re going to see me talk directly to you.” And you know why I’m doing this? Because I’m challenging you.
I’m challenging you right now today. I don’t want any of your stupid YouTube comments on there. I don’t want you overanalyzing things on YouTube. “Good advice, David.” No. This is my challenge. This is good advice.
Here’s my challenge to you. If you have a crush on somebody, ask them out today. Don’t wait 24 years. Don’t wait 24 minutes, and don’t wait 24 seconds.
Ask them out. Get it over with. Get rejected or not.
But just get it out of your system because you never know what she’s thinking. Do you want Kathy Shapiro coming back into your life 24 years later and tell you, “Well, why didn’t you do something about it?”
Just think about the hot college sex I could have been having. Think about it. Now think about the hot sex you could be having right now with your crush.
Think about the hot romantic moments you can have with your crush if you’re a little bit older. But whatever it is, get out of your damn head.
Because you don’t want to find out in space age Facebook in 24 years because Facebook will be done. It’ll be called something else.
It’ll be called Spaceman Book and it’ll be whatever else it is and then it will come at you like this virtual reality like in Terminator.
So all of a sudden your Kathy Shapiro or your Susan Halley will come flying out of the computer and say, “Hey! Why didn’t you do something 24 years ago?”
And there she is in virtual reality and you still can’t touch her. So the time is now. Get off your ass. Ask out your crush.
And instead of some stupid comments on YouTube, I want to hear about how you went out and tried to find out what your crush thought.
I want to hear about you going out and asking her out. And if you’re a woman watching this, man, I want you to let your crush know that you’re interested.
Because we don’t want to waste 24 years and you don’t want to wait for Spacebook to come out 24 years from now with virtual reality and you realize that life could have been a little different.
Think about this too, for an instant. If you ask out your crush, the whole direction of your life may change because your crush may be the person that you end up spending up the rest of your life with.
You never know where it’s going to go, and every decision you make can change the way your life goes. With that conversation, we’re going to have another day.
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