Sensual Compliment texts are the purely physical counterpart to appreciation texts.
They’re little texts you send to your partner as a way to let him or her know you’re thinking of them, find them attractive, have some “plans” for them that night or generally like having them around.
I call them Sensual Compliment texts because they’re texts about how your partner looks, sounds, smells, tastes or feels (you know, SENSES).
Sensual Compliment Texts For Women Versus Men
If your partner is a man, you can get away with being more blunt in your Sensual Compliments.
(Honestly, you don’t even necessarily need to be all that sensual. Just going for the jugular will probably work . . . but don’t get lazy. Guys are SHOCKED when they meet a woman who can actually play this game well.)
That said, you should still experiment with more detailed language and bringing more senses into the equation, if just for variety and to “teach” your man what you want to receive in return.
If your partner is a woman, GO FOR THE GOLD. Seriously, if you learn nothing else from this manual, you should master this stuff.
Being able to show a woman that you actually NOTICE stuff about her and can talk about details will have her quivering with excitement and bragging to all her friends about what an amazing man she has.
It’ll also help her be a lot freer and more passionate with you in general.
Sensual Compliment Texts Explained
Just like with Appreciation texts, Sensual Compliments can be “chained” off of a Curiosity Magnet text.
For instance . . .
Patricia: “I can’t stop thinking about . . . ”
Stephen: “About what?”
Patricia: “About how your hands feel on me. They’re so . . . strong. I feel so safe when you touch me. =-)”
A good Sensual Compliment text is all about the DETAIL. You’ve got to show your partner that you’re paying attention to them on a real level.
First let’s look at a quick Sensual Compliment formula, then I’ll break this down a bit.
The Sensual Compliment Formulas
“I can’t stop thinking about your . . . ” (Body part or trait.)
“You have the most wonderful . . . ” (TRAIT. Bonus points for adding the EFFECT IT HAS ON YOU)
“I really like your (TRAIT). I keep getting distracted thinking about it.”
The key is to get right into what you like about your partner.
Let them know that thinking about them “distracts” you, and let them feel that rush of being found attractive by you and having POWER over you.
Let’s do some more examples from each of the senses (note that some things are going to cross over between senses, and that’s just fine. In fact, the more senses you can get involved in your compliments the better off you’re going to be.)
IMPORTANT NOTE: When you’re figuring out what you should compliment about your partner, you MUST make sure it’s something about themselves that they actually like.
Guys, just because YOU love her ass doesn’t mean SHE loves her ass. If she’s got a complex about it, your words could blow up in your face.
Sight Compliments are about the way your partner looks, or about the way some specific (and sexy) part of your partner looks.
Generally guys are going to go right for Sight Compliments and have a hard time “stretching” out to other parts (though if they do, they’ll reap huge rewards).
Good fodder for Sight Compliments include specific body parts. The more specific you can get the better.
So saying “your ass” is OK, but saying “the subtle curve of your lower back and the little mole right above your left hip drives me crazy” is MUCH better.
Just to list it out, here’s a few things that make GREAT sight compliments:
– Eyes (make sure to let him/her know what you feel when he/she looks at you)
– Biceps (for guys . . . though, ladies, if he doesn’t have any biceps you should leave that one alone; guys can be sensitive, and we don’t all work out like Brad Pitt)
– “The curve of your neck”
– “Your smile”
– “Your hair”
– “The way you look at me” (a bit advanced, but hey)
– “The shape of you” (one of my favorites to send to a woman)
– Other, less PG parts
Again, for guys in particular, going for the “obvious” stuff will only get you so far. Going deeper and in more detail will make your woman swoon.
For women, I recommend you focus as much as possible on how this thing about him makes you personally feel.
A lot of men’s self esteem comes from the way women react to him, and Sensual texts are a great way to make him feel good about himself.
Here are some Sight Compliment examples
Mark: “I love your . . . ”
Sally: “My what?”
Mark: “Your eyes. The little specs of green in them. Sometimes I feel this little shock of electricity through me when you look at me. I like it. =-)”
Jen: “I keep thinking about the muscles on your back. I like the way they move under your skin. I should be working but you keep distracting me. =-)”
Jason: “You keep distracting me . . . ”
Marie: “Really, how?”
Jason: “I keep thinking of you wearing my old football jersey. Your thighs peeking out the bottom and . . . ”
Marie: “Oh, you like that, do you?”
Jason: “Very much. =-)”
Sound Compliments are almost always going to be about your partner’s voice. Honestly, the voice is something that most couples utterly ignore.
I could probably do a whole program teaching you how to use your voice to really bore through to your partner’s romantic mind, and how hearing certain voice tones can hijack our brains.
But that’s for another time.
Again, the key is to give your partner a compliment and let them know the EFFECT their voice has on you.
Paul: “I love the sound of your voice when you’ve had a little too much to drink. It’s all husky and low and sends shivers up my spine.”
Notice the detail? Notice the PLAYFULNESS?
It’s funny how here in America we get all obsessed with covering up smells. PHEROMONES are powerful stuff, after all.
Personally, my girlfriend gets downright mad at me if I wear deodorant and makes me wash it off as soon as I get home.
For guys . . .
Talk about the smell of her hair and how you can’t wait to bury your face in it when you see her that night.
For women . . .
Talk about the smell of his BODY and how SAFE you feel when you smell it. I think you get the idea, so I’m not going to give a whole list of examples here.
Powerful, powerful stuff.
Generally, a Taste Compliment text is going to be about the taste of his/her skin or the taste of his/her lips. (Or . . .well, the creative among you will figure it out. I’m trying to stay PG-13 here.)
Tom: “I miss the taste of your skin. When I see you tonight I’m going to nibble my way all up and down your neck until. . . ”
Sarah: “I love the way your lips taste. Thinking of it makes me weak in the knees . . . ”
Sometimes just a short message like that can work wonders.
And finally, we’ve got . . .
As you’ll discover as you get better at this “texting thing,” the word “feel” has a certain magical power to it. It’s one of my key “power words” for texting in general.
I like to pepper it through everything I send, both in talking about the physical sensation of feeling something and talking about emotional feelings.
Great Touch Compliment texts include . .
“Your body. I love how soft you feel against me.” (Texting a woman)
“Your arms. I love how big and SOLID you feel.” (Texting a man)
“The way your (body part) feels in my hands.”
Jerry: “I miss the feel of you against me. Can’t wait to get home.”
Sally: “You have the softest, most wonderful lips . . . ”
How’s your partner going to react? Probably pretty positively.
In a lot of cases, if the relationship is “pretty good” your partner will pounce on this opportunity to have some really fun, flirty (or dirty) back and forth with you.
If that doesn’t happen, don’t sweat it. Just by giving the Sensual Compliment you’ll show you’re paying attention to the details about your partner.
Women in particular react VERY well to this kind of sensuality.
Personally I think this kind of attention to a woman is like sunshine to a flower. Women NEED to feel appreciated, both physically and emotionally, to really be happy in a relationship.
Men need attention, too, but it doesn’t always need to be so “poetic.”
The above article is an excerpt from Michael Fiore’s Text The Romance Back.
About the author
Since early 2010, Michael Fiore been teaching men and women around the world how to use simple text messages sent from your average cell phone to dramatically improve the romance, passion and connection in their relationships, no matter how “dull” things feel like they’ve gotten so far.
Michael’s used his texting methods to help men and women in all 50 states and over 12 countries around the world and has received raves from everyone.
Michael’s been interviewed by relationship experts and mainstream media sites around how to use this new technology to improve human connection. He lives in Seattle, Washington with his (frankly incredible) girlfriend and a smart but slightly anxious Australian Shepard named Jedi.
For more information, visit, http://www.texttheromanceback.com/
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