Dear ladies, I suggest that you have a vested interest in helping us guys become romantic loving men.
Please do not give up on us because men are worth it – aren’t we?
Deep down in your heart you know that our gender is worth saving.
You cannot completely separate us out of your lives, even though a large percentage of women have tried.
Some of you might feel that you cannot live with us in our current state of manhood and too many men do not understand why.
Consequently we have created an interesting dilemma in our lives; you cannot live without us and we cannot live without you (for very long that is).
Thank goodness for the invention of the couch, the spare room and in some dire circumstances, the dreaded doghouse.
For the sake of relationships, families and humanity, we need to get along, honor each other’s needs, learn to compromise, improve our communication skills, find a healthy balance of our priorities and create loving relationships based on trust.
Considering the approximate fifty percent failure rate in relationships, I think it is safe to say, that we have a lot of work to do together.
“Men always want to be a woman’s first love; women like to be a man’s last romance.” Oscar Wilde
Time to transform all men to romantic loving men
I admit that men have been a significant contributor to the current state of fragile or broken relationships.
There are a lot of great men out there, but unfortunately there are also some men who are setting a very bad example for younger generations.
A man, who rapes, abuses, demoralizes, devalues, disrespects or commits acts of violence against women, is a weak and sick man.
These men need to be identified, judged, sentenced and rehabilitated according to the degree of their disrespect of women.
Our collective society can no longer tolerate these weak and abusive men. Regardless of our culture, traditions or social status we need to take a stand together.
It is time for all men to “man up” and become loving and caring husbands, boyfriend, fathers, brothers, uncles, and grandfathers. Future generations depend on this transformation to a world full of romantic loving men.
Young boys everywhere are looking for guidance and mentorship.
Shocking questions like, “Mommy why did daddy hit you?” need to be replaced with loving comments like, “Mommy those are beautiful flowers that daddy brought you!”
A romantic loving man cares for his wife, protects his family, respects women and sets a good example for young boys and other men.
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”- Theodore Hesburgh
A romantic loving man cannot be erected over night
A romantic loving man cannot be erected over night by popping a little blue pill. It is not about sex. It is about unconditional love, respect and romance.
Building unconditional self-love is the foundation for becoming a romantic loving man.
The “universal love principle” states that you cannot love someone unconditionally until you learn to love yourself unconditionally first.
Does this love principle make sense to you?
How can you truly love someone else, if you do not love yourself?
A romantic loving man is full of unconditionally love.
He is humble and compassionate and he accepts others for who they are. It is important to make the distinction between self-love and selfish love.
An “Ego Maniac” man is full of himself because he embraces a selfish form of love. He is capable of love, but his love is conditional and it is usually expressed with selfish intentions.
He walks around with a “me first attitude” and he has trouble finding hats to fit his swollen head. Men need to learn that size does matter – the size of our hearts.
Men cannot “make love” alone
We can golf by ourselves, fish in solitude and hike in silence but we cannot “make love” without your help.
We need your assistance to help us open our hearts and reclaim our birth right as romantic loving men.
Your loving compliments and encouraging words will help us rise up to meet your expectations and achieve our potential as romantic loving men.
Here are some important “dos” and “don’ts” for massaging the romance out of your man:
- Do look for opportunities to compliment us.
We appreciate and we respond to the small pats on our male manes. You can help build us up by acknowledging our progress and accomplishments.
Try to catch us in the act of doing good things like “cleaning up without being asked” or “changing diapers in the middle of the night without waking you up to brag about it” or “bringing you flowers just because we care”.
- Do not criticize us in public or in front of the members of our male pride.
We get defensive when our manhood is assaulted.
You may have experienced our revengeful behavior if you cut us down with “he never cleans up”, or “he acts like an idiot” or “he can’t fix anything”, or “he used to be a good lover”.
- Do communicate with us like you are talking to a child.
You may have noticed that we are not very astute at reading between the lines or interpreting your feelings. Most men need clear and concise direction based on the K.I.S.S. principle, Keep It Simple Sister.
If you want to be heard and understood, then try communicating with men like you are talking to a child. Tell us what you want, make us a detailed list and be prepared to remind us.
This will not undermine our intelligence or hurt our manly pride because we want to understand you. We prefer to avoid conflict and as you know, communication breakdowns are a common cause of relationship warfare.
- Do tell us that we look sexy when we are caught doing household chores.
We will entertain and serve you as we proudly model are vacuuming and cleaning talents.
On occasion, you can acknowledge our efforts with your affection but be careful that you do not reward us every time, for something that we should be doing anyways.
Making love should occur naturally in a loving and intimate relationship. If men associate sex with a reward system, then we will manipulate the situation in our favor and in our desired time.
If you throw a dog a bone every time he is a “good boy”, he will show up with a silly grin and wagging his tail looking for another expected treat.
- Do help us become better lovers. Most men want to be great lovers, but first we need to find good teachers.
Are you willing to show and tell your man what pleases you?
Are you able to share your intimate needs and desires?
Would you like to stop faking it and start making it?
Are you ready to train your man to become a romantic lover? We are waiting patiently for your loving guidance.
“Love is a game that two can play and both can win.”, Eva Gardner
Perhaps you have experienced a rocky path with men and you are feeling reluctant to massage the romance out of your man?
Trust that this massage treatment will have a happy ending for you and your relationship.
You will probably be rewarded with a husband with benefits too. On behalf of all men, we look forward to your loving touch to help us become romantic loving men.
About the author
Dr. Love is a natural expert on love and relationships and the creator of the successful love relationship game called Syncrohearts.
He was inspired to create this game to help enhance his own marriage and now his “love game” is adding lots of love, laughter, great communication and more romance for couples around the world.
During the development of Syncrohearts, a life changing transformation took place for the forestry guy.
As he came out of the woods, his heart opened, he became a romantic loving man and he was awarded with the honorary title of Dr. Love.
He is an international speaker and author on the topic of love and relationships.
He has been featured in national print, radio and television media.
He twice earned the opportunity to try to slay the “Dragons” with love on the CBC Dragons Den (similar to the Shark Tank in the US), a reality TV program in Canada. He recently won the 2011 Best Idea for Humanity Contest.
His love mission supports a very worthwhile charity, the Zajac Ranch for kids with special needs.
To know more about Dr. Bobby Love, visit http://www.syncrohearts.com/
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