In this video, Clay talks about why you can’t force people to feel to love you again. What can you do to get your ex to come back to you?
You can only influence your ex
There is nothing you can do to force your ex to love you again. We just can’t make people feel a certain way. We can, however, influence people. If you want your ex to fall in love with you again, there are things you can do to influence them in that direction.
Clear the negative emotions
Fate brought the two of you together and you fell in love and had a relationship. That means that your ex is already attracted to you. Something pulled the two of you apart, and it was probably negative emotions. You need to remove the negative emotions in order to clear the way for the love to return.
Take time to heal
You need to remind your ex of the person you once were and why they fell in love with you in the first place. You need to clear the negative emotions. Start by engaging in active no contact. Take a step away from the relationship. This can be difficult, as most people after a break up go a little crazy. The desperation is only going to drive your ex further away. He or she fell in love with a confidant, fun, enchanting you. Find that person again by taking time away from the relationship to heal. When it’s time to reach out to your ex again he or she will see the new, confident you and be reminded of why they fell in love with you in the first place.
Most people lose control of themselves immediately after a breakup and do all kinds of desperate acts in order to get their ex to fall back in love with them. However, this desperation is very unattractive and is only going to push your ex away. You cannot force your ex to fall back in love with you; we just don’t have control over other people’s emotions. You can, however, influence them in that direction. It may seem counter-intuitive but the first thing you need to do is take a step back from the relationship. Cut contact with your ex and take time to heal and become the person you used to be; the confident, sexy person your ex originally fell in love with.
About Clay Andrews
Clay and Mika are the creators of Ex Solution Program and help couples get back together.
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