In this video, Clay Andrews shares advice on how to attract your ex back and escape the friend zone.
When you have contact with your ex again, you just feel GREAT. You are just so happy to have their company again and to have them in your life, that you accept it as it is right away. But what happens if things start to look as if they are going down the ‘just good friends’ route? Should you just accept this, or should you go for it, and tell your ex that you still have feelings for them and that you want to be more than just friends? Here are the top tips on how to handle this.
Can you be just good friends?
The first thing to think about, is whether or not you can handle being just good friends. If you are going to hurt every single time that you see your ex then you are setting yourself up for a fall. Take better care of yourself and don’t put yourself through it. If it looks like it can only be just friends, then decide whether or not you should perhaps give yourself a clean break so that you can move forward and let yourself heal.
Seeing and speaking to your ex all of the time will be like picking a scab off a wound. You will just keep reopening the wound and making yourself suffer. Don’t!
Who ended things? Who should make the first move?
You have to think about it – if you ended things then maybe your ex is just unsure as to whether or not you would want to get back together with them and so they may be trying to respect your feelings by being just friends. You may need to take the bull by the horns and flirt a little – show your ex that you have feelings and see how they respond to it. It’s okay to let them make the next move if that is what you want but put something out there.
How will you feel if your ex SAYS they don’t want to get back together?
If you show your ex that you are interested, and they say they only wants to be friends, what will you do or say? Have a think about this so that you are prepared and don’t just fall apart when you are together. But know, that if you love them still then go for it and see what is still there (or not) as life is short and you only get one shot at it.
And can things work again if they are interested?
If your ex does want to be more than just friends then think about how to make it work this time and work on yourself to be a better partner. Take responsibility for making things work even if you were not responsible for things ending. It can be whatever you make it. Just go for it.
About Clay Andrews
Clay and Mika are the creators of Ex Solution Program and help couples get back together.
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