May 27, 2012

Are Long Distance Relationships Worth It?

Are Long Distance Relationships Worth It

Video Transcript

Is it worth being a in a long-distance relationship? Well, obviously, in every case, in every situation is unique and different and there is no single answer that would apply to every single relationship.

However, there are several important questions you should ask yourself that will really help you to determine whether your long-distance relationship is worth having and worth continuing putting an effort into.

The first question you should ask yourself is whether or not you are in that relationship for the right reasons.

Are you in that long-distance relationship because you feel that other person is so special to you and it’s such a rare opportunity and you have these strong feelings you haven’t had in a while for anybody or have never had for anybody?

Or, are you in that relationship because you’re lonely and you have been lonely for a while and you feel that you don’t have any other options and having that relationship with a person by email or by phone, somebody you hardly ever see, having that is better than having nothing?

If the latter is the case, it’s probably the wrong reason to be in a long-distance relationship because you’re feeling a certain hope that’s probably bound to fail, for you and for this other person, and your efforts are probably better spent looking for a relationship where you can see each other more often, or as often as you can.

The second question you should ask yourself is whether or not there is a real probability that you will be able to see each other more often in a foreseeable future.

If both of you have plans to make things work out and to move closer together and to be able to see each other more often, that’s great and that’s something wonderful to look forward to.

However, if both of you don’t have any such plans, you’re not willing to change your life and nothing is likely to change the lives of both of you then there’s probably no point to continue developing feels for each other because the longer it will last, the more painful the breakup or the end of that communication will be.

The last factor you should consider is how difficult it is, time wise and financially, for you to make an effort to see each other. For some people it’s not a big deal.

I know a number of people who live on the east coast and they come to see their partner on the west coast and they do it every weekend, it’s not a big deal.

Buying a flight ticket is that not big of a deal for them. They are used to travelling and flying all the time for work, so it’s not an obstacle.

For other people, driving an hour could be an obstacle. It could be too expensive. Or, it could be too time consuming and it’s really hard for them to make it.

So, the financial consideration is also something you should keep in mind.

So, if you are in a situation where you have a long-distance relationship and you’re considering whether its worth making an effort and its worth continuing to stay in touch with that other person, ask yourself these three basic questions and it will really help you determine whether you should continue.

Especially, if your being honest with yourself and the other person.

Thank you.

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